> You're assuming, first, that attraction is exclusively defined in sexual terms, which is untrue. Agreed. If you are attracted to someone and you don't want t

> You're assuming, first, that attraction is exclusively defined in sexual terms, which is untrue. Agreed. If you are attracted to someone and you don't want to have sex with them, then it's not sexual attraction. I am attracted to my business partner, for example, because he is very confident and has a warm personality. That's why I call him my friend and business partner. But this doesn't make me Gay, I don't want to have sex with him. > You're further assuming that identity is exclusively defined by sexuality. Also not true. Agreed. There are many facets to a person's identity. Sexual identity is just one of them. In a conversation about LGBTQ identity, it's fair to assume we're talking about sexual identity, it's right in the name - lesbian gay bi trans queer. Those are words that describe who you have sexual relationships with, therefore conversations about LGBTQ identity are about sexual identity. If you want to have a discussion about geographic or other parts of a person's identity, then we can do that, but nothing about our conversation is about those parts of a person's identity. Edit: I see where our misunderstanding is. You think LGBTQ is a banner under which an entire identity is defined, but I think LGBTQ is just one part of a person's larger identity. I think there are many LGBTQ people who do not want their identity to be pinned to their sexual preference, many would say "I'm just a guy who likes men, don't paint me with that whole brush".