It's punitive or to compensate for the donor's emotional toll. For an empathetic person, finding out you have 12 extra kids is incredibly taxing. There's guilt

It's punitive or to compensate for the donor's emotional toll. For an empathetic person, finding out you have 12 extra kids is incredibly taxing. There's guilt for not having raised them (irrational though it mightbe), shame for not knowing them, fear for their futures, etc etc. I wouldn't wish the situation on anyone.