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Either your friend was lying or he should get a better lawyer. The relevant law in California states that sperm donors are not legal parents: “The donor of sem

Either your friend was lying or he should get a better lawyer. The relevant law in California states that sperm donors are not legal parents: “The donor of semen provided to a licensed physician and surgeon or to a licensed sperm bank for use in assisted reproduction of a woman other than the donor’s spouse is treated in law as if he were not the natural parent of a child thereby conceived, unless otherwise agreed to in a writing signed by the donor and the woman prior to the conception of the child,” states California Family Code 7613.

silencio 7y ago
agreed. time to talk to a lawyer. also maybe the sperm bank, as it’s not trivial at most of them to discover who the donor is to that degree. certainly makes me raise an eyebrow that the timing was so perfect too. i have a further thought - i am a legal owner of an “intimate partner” storage account where my partner’s sperm is stored for only my use as their spouse. even with the very very low FDA testing/paperwork bar for this type of account, there’s a paper trail that can be followed and a chain of custody for every single vial ever used. they’ll have even more documentation if the friend’s sperm was ever for sale.
mmjaa 7y ago
My friend didn't lie. The reason he is liable is because he dated her, a fact she kept evidence of, in order to present at the alimony hearing. The judge assumed this was enough to prove his responsibility for the child she then conceived (without him). That's the crux.
- lalaland1125 7y ago
  This is why you have the right of discovery in court cases. He could simply show that she was lying by demonstrating that she got sperm from the sperm bank. (Alternatively, he could have proven that he had a vasectomy before they dated). Both of those two things leave hard medical records. Like I said before, either your friend lied or he needs a better lawyer. Given the story that you stated, the law is definitely on his side.
  - mmjaa 7y ago
    He did all that. The judge decided he needed to pay child support anyway. The rights of the child were greater than that of my friend. Anyway, he fought back and is now a very dedicated father. He has visitation rights, and soon enough the childs decision to move in with her Dad, because her Mom is a criminal, will be ratified in court ..
magduf 7y ago
>Either your friend was lying or he should get a better lawyer. This is the problem with people saying "this isn't legal in America": it's all based on how good your lawyer is, and if you can't afford Johnny Cochrane, you get screwed, no matter what the law says.

silencio 7y ago

agreed. time to talk to a lawyer. also maybe the sperm bank, as it’s not trivial at most of them to discover who the donor is to that degree. certainly makes me raise an eyebrow that the timing was so perfect too. i have a further thought - i am a legal owner of an “intimate partner” storage account where my partner’s sperm is stored for only my use as their spouse. even with the very very low FDA testing/paperwork bar for this type of account, there’s a paper trail that can be followed and a chain of custody for every single vial ever used. they’ll have even more documentation if the friend’s sperm was ever for sale.

mmjaa 7y ago

My friend didn't lie. The reason he is liable is because he dated her, a fact she kept evidence of, in order to present at the alimony hearing. The judge assumed this was enough to prove his responsibility for the child she then conceived (without him). That's the crux.

lalaland1125 7y ago
This is why you have the right of discovery in court cases. He could simply show that she was lying by demonstrating that she got sperm from the sperm bank. (Alternatively, he could have proven that he had a vasectomy before they dated). Both of those two things leave hard medical records. Like I said before, either your friend lied or he needs a better lawyer. Given the story that you stated, the law is definitely on his side.
- mmjaa 7y ago
  He did all that. The judge decided he needed to pay child support anyway. The rights of the child were greater than that of my friend. Anyway, he fought back and is now a very dedicated father. He has visitation rights, and soon enough the childs decision to move in with her Dad, because her Mom is a criminal, will be ratified in court ..

magduf 7y ago

>Either your friend was lying or he should get a better lawyer. This is the problem with people saying "this isn't legal in America": it's all based on how good your lawyer is, and if you can't afford Johnny Cochrane, you get screwed, no matter what the law says.