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Now that's a sour argument with pointing to an tiny edge case. There are tons of edge cases - kids born with various diseases, be it physical or psychological,

Now that's a sour argument with pointing to an tiny edge case. There are tons of edge cases - kids born with various diseases, be it physical or psychological, danger to mother etc. And anyway we all die, and so will all the matter in universe at one point... I've given tons of unconditional love as a child, I've seen it being received by many peers with kids, and hopefully will experience some of it with my own. Even if not, it is still very much worthy for me to have them. Create life, an unique being which is a mix of you and your partner. Nothing else in life comes close to proper achievement in life, be it professional or personal (and I've achieved much more than was expected from me on all levels). That's me (and many many people around us who already have them, lives are changed forever and for the better). If one doesn't want them, that's perfectly fine, find your own drive. But raising kids ain't some ancient, obsolete un-cool goal/achievement, in contrary.

username90 7y ago
> If one doesn't want them, that's perfectly fine, find your own drive. But raising kids ain't some ancient, obsolete un-cool goal/achievement, in contrary. Nobody said that you shouldn't want a kid, just that it is fine to not want one. Telling people who don't want kids that they are missing out on unconditional love is disingenuous.
- hvidgaard 7y ago
  > Telling people who don't want kids that they are missing out on unconditional love is disingenuous. I don't think anyone in this thread has made that claim. Just buy a dog if you want unconditional love. But it certainly is one major "benefit" of having children.
  - username90 7y ago
    You said you got unconditional love from your kid. Unconditional means that you could replace yourself with any other person and it would have worked out the same. I don't think that is true, lots of parents don't get that benefit. Love from your kids is something you earn through hard work as a parent and not just something you get unconditionally. It is mostly true for dogs though, I agree.

username90 7y ago

> If one doesn't want them, that's perfectly fine, find your own drive. But raising kids ain't some ancient, obsolete un-cool goal/achievement, in contrary. Nobody said that you shouldn't want a kid, just that it is fine to not want one. Telling people who don't want kids that they are missing out on unconditional love is disingenuous.

hvidgaard 7y ago
> Telling people who don't want kids that they are missing out on unconditional love is disingenuous. I don't think anyone in this thread has made that claim. Just buy a dog if you want unconditional love. But it certainly is one major "benefit" of having children.
- username90 7y ago
  You said you got unconditional love from your kid. Unconditional means that you could replace yourself with any other person and it would have worked out the same. I don't think that is true, lots of parents don't get that benefit. Love from your kids is something you earn through hard work as a parent and not just something you get unconditionally. It is mostly true for dogs though, I agree.