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Because one basic way of showing any respect at all for someone is calling them by their preferred name and pronouns. Refusing to do so suggests that you someho
by journalctl 7y ago
Because one basic way of showing any respect at all for someone is calling them by their preferred name and pronouns. Refusing to do so suggests that you somehow know someone else better than they know themselves. If someone is that upset about it they can seethe elsewhere on their own time, but when interacting with someone, just use their preferred name/pronouns.
- josteink 7y ago> Because one basic way of showing any respect at all for someone is calling them by their preferred name and pronouns This argument makes no sense as before knowing you, I cannot know neither your name nor “preffered pronoun”. I’m going to call you by the default pronouns defined for the default genders as established by millennia of biological and linguistic evolution. Anyone demanding everyone else to deviate from those established norms for the sake of pleasing their “personal” pronouns, are simply holding unrealistic expectations, only serving to bring themselves down.
- journalctl 7y agoSure, but I don’t really expect people to know how to refer to me before they meet me. Context provides some clues, and if they guessed then they’d probably be correct. “They/them” also works if in doubt. But presumably when you meet someone they’ll tell you what they want to be called (their name), and potentially their preferred pronouns. It’s more common in some circles than others, but all it requires is being a good listener and some humility. If you misgender someone by accident, it’s an honest mistake and that’s okay.
- dependenttypes 7y agoRespect really goes both ways. I suggest this post that I personally agree with on the topic https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21092138 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21092138