Not sure if you have more than one kid of your own but fwiw having more kids definitely reduced this kind of anxiety for me. With my first it was really hard to

Not sure if you have more than one kid of your own but fwiw having more kids definitely reduced this kind of anxiety for me. With my first it was really hard to not compare him to other kids (like you mentioned) even though I knew intellectually it wasn't helpful for either of us to do so. With the second they were so incredibly different from each other despite being raised in the same environment that it became much more obvious how silly it would be to compare them to someone else in a totally different environment. Now we have three and the idea of having free time to spend worrying about stuff like that seems like a luxury for the well rested.* * An exaggeration, of course. We got a few hours of sleep in a row as recently as last week.