1) There's a reason drill sergeants aren't exactly known to be friendly... 2) Not all people have an easy time learning not to be an asshole (and some literall

1) There's a reason drill sergeants aren't exactly known to be friendly... 2) Not all people have an easy time learning not to be an asshole (and some literally can't). Thus, the resource-cost varies. 3) If one is just blunt, people can often misinterpret that as being an asshole. But factually, the blunt person is just blunt, and the "victim" is just disgruntled, which, at least in my opinion, makes the "victim" the actual asshole if he decides to judge the blunt person because of that. There are certainly many assholes who deserve to be criticized, but we should allow the benefit of doubt to all parties first.