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I prefer to use the term "open" instead of vulnerable, to avoid exactly the situation you're pointing out. And you can be open without being weak or vulnerable
by ryanwaggoner 7y ago
I prefer to use the term "open" instead of vulnerable, to avoid exactly the situation you're pointing out. And you can be open without being weak or vulnerable if you have self-confidence. Not faked confidence, but the genuine kind that comes from dealing with your shit instead of repressing it and putting on a mask of fake confidence, strength, stoicism, invulnerability, etc.
- 77pt77 7y agoAgain, that sounds like reverse causation...
- selestify 7y agoWhat's causing what? I don't see cause and effect here, I see one adjective versus another.
- atoav 7y agoYeah you can be open too and this means by definition you are confident about the topic at hand and that you trust the other person enough. But if all you ever do is only talk about topics that you can confidently speak about with out risking something, then you are missing out on something. And sure you can also go and deal with it on your own till you got the confidence to talk about it without exposing yourself, but there are connections you will be never able to form if all you ever do is deal with yourself.
- ryanwaggoner 7y agoIt’s not confidence about the topics. It’s confidence about yourself.