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What is the difference? Give examples of vulnerability that is not also weakness.
by 77pt77 7y ago
What is the difference?
Give examples of vulnerability that is not also weakness.
- ryanwaggoner 7y agoI prefer to use the term "open" instead of vulnerable, to avoid exactly the situation you're pointing out. And you can be open without being weak or vulnerable if you have self-confidence. Not faked confidence, but the genuine kind that comes from dealing with your shit instead of repressing it and putting on a mask of fake confidence, strength, stoicism, invulnerability, etc.
- 77pt77 7y agoAgain, that sounds like reverse causation...
- selestify 7y agoWhat's causing what? I don't see cause and effect here, I see one adjective versus another.
- atoav 7y agoYeah you can be open too and this means by definition you are confident about the topic at hand and that you trust the other person enough. But if all you ever do is only talk about topics that you can confidently speak about with out risking something, then you are missing out on something. And sure you can also go and deal with it on your own till you got the confidence to talk about it without exposing yourself, but there are connections you will be never able to form if all you ever do is deal with yourself.
- ryanwaggoner 7y agoIt’s not confidence about the topics. It’s confidence about yourself.
- seph-reed 7y agoShield-down && (buff vs scrawny)
- castlecrasher2 7y agoVulnerability is being strong and weak at the same time. It's having the strength to know what the end goal is and not get distracted by emotional hurdles while being weak in submitting to authority and peers. The easiest example of vulnerability I can think of is leaders from other departments asking my opinion on work processes or product ideas. One could argue that's not weakness but I believe it is, in that leaders who believe themselves above everyone else at the company will make policy and standards that ignore important aspects of product development and delivery. An example of weakness is confessing personal issues to your manager or a peer, so much so they think less of you but generally don't tell you directly. The "vulnerable" version of that is handling your issues as you see them, asking peers and mentors for comments on your work and how you can improve, and simply not talking about them outside that. I'll admit part of my judgment is shaded by personal bias from my own weaknesses, but that's how I see it.