I don't want to go around picking on specific comments or arguments, but I still wanted to address what reads like a lot of insecurity and scar tissue, here...

I don't want to go around picking on specific comments or arguments, but I still wanted to address what reads like a lot of insecurity and scar tissue, here... - It's better to understand people than to not understand them. Averages and stereotypes are not a great way to understand individual people. - If you want to understand why a person did or thinks something, a good place to start is with a generous assumption that you might have done or thought the same if you had the same experiences. Reflect on what sort of experiences might fulfill this statement. - Assume completely understanding an intelligence is impossible. If you haven't before, pay close attention to your internal narrative(s) until you catch yourself telling yourself a story about why you did or said or thought something. This is you, reflecting on what sorts of experiences led you to do or think something. This is evidence that we don't understand our own intelligence. - Don't be surprised if you find you are less generous when reflecting on what experiences lead you to do something than you are to others. You have, after all, been trying to understand why you do what you do your entire life. Look for opportunities to show yourself (and, more importantly, your internal narratives) that you care. This may feel stupid. Reflect on what experiences might lead you to think it is stupid to show yourself that you care. - If you are more generous with yourself, you aren't giving the rest of us enough credit. We all contain multitudes.