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> men are not imperfect women that would be improved if we adopted the other genders mannerisms. Divulging one's emotional state is not a "[female] mannerism".
by rexpop 7y ago
> men are not imperfect women that would be improved if we adopted the other genders mannerisms.
Divulging one's emotional state is not a "[female] mannerism". It is a basic, androgynous function of all social beings. It's endlessly frustrating to have my faculties gendered away from me.
- 0x8BADF00D 7y agoBut it’s a little bit different. Women tend to pick up on subtleties during conversation, which can immediately change their emotional state. I’d argue women are more emotionally labile. And often they will not divulge their true emotional state, IME. Men tend to be more direct.
- asabjorn 7y agoI am not saying so either, because only a fool would claim men don’t have emotions and don’t need to be seen. What I am saying is that seeing and learning how to be seen is hard, and approaching others and oneself as a narrative is directly unhelpful towards that goal. I suggest reading the book if you are interested in the topic because it’s not saying what you think it says and will help you utilize your faculties more adaptively. In the worst case you think it’s bull.