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I've found that women often appreciate and find men who are authentic, emotions included, attractive. You can always overshare and if you express emotions in a

I've found that women often appreciate and find men who are authentic, emotions included, attractive. You can always overshare and if you express emotions in a way where you put the burden on the other person, I don't think anybody really enjoys that

rolltiide 7y ago
> I've found that women often appreciate and find men who are authentic, emotions included, attractive. I have found they are attracted to the idea of that, until they get it. Understand there are consequences and approach objectively. The same idea of a lot men liking the chase more than actually being with a woman. Let them chase an idea of a man sharing feelings, let them chase the idea they can change a man into sharing. But be aware there are often consequences that don't involve them being interested in you any longer if you actually share. No its # not all women, no its not collaborative or mature. But I guarantee you can keep the sexual companionship of many more women for longer if you shut up and dangle an emotional string just out of paws reach. If you’re looking for a more mature life partner? Keep looking! But if you like consistent sex with people that think they’ll change you into a life partner that they wont be attracted to, be aware of what is happening and understand a lot of the relationship power imbalance in your favor comes from this and continuing it. A lot of women don't consciously know they do this, just one day after you open up or do something less masculine, they don't see you the same again. Enjoy a satire on this concept that many might find relatable but never had spelled out for them: https://local.theonion.com/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-interested-1819565990 https://local.theonion.com/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someo...
Ancalagon 7y ago
I disagree, maybe those women appreciate authentic emotions among friends, but at least while on the dating scene, authenticity NEVER won me any points, and quite to the contrary, the stoic/mysterious man always won out.
- SomeOldThrow 7y ago
  Maybe the issue is viewing relationships in terms of points and winning.
- OtterEcho 7y ago
  I think the stoic/mystery "distant" persona works at first but if you want to foster and deeper connection between someone as an equal than you have to open up
  - shard972 7y ago
    Hes talking about dating aps though.

rolltiide 7y ago

> I've found that women often appreciate and find men who are authentic, emotions included, attractive. I have found they are attracted to the idea of that, until they get it. Understand there are consequences and approach objectively. The same idea of a lot men liking the chase more than actually being with a woman. Let them chase an idea of a man sharing feelings, let them chase the idea they can change a man into sharing. But be aware there are often consequences that don't involve them being interested in you any longer if you actually share. No its # not all women, no its not collaborative or mature. But I guarantee you can keep the sexual companionship of many more women for longer if you shut up and dangle an emotional string just out of paws reach. If you’re looking for a more mature life partner? Keep looking! But if you like consistent sex with people that think they’ll change you into a life partner that they wont be attracted to, be aware of what is happening and understand a lot of the relationship power imbalance in your favor comes from this and continuing it. A lot of women don't consciously know they do this, just one day after you open up or do something less masculine, they don't see you the same again. Enjoy a satire on this concept that many might find relatable but never had spelled out for them: https://local.theonion.com/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-interested-1819565990 https://local.theonion.com/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someo...

Ancalagon 7y ago

I disagree, maybe those women appreciate authentic emotions among friends, but at least while on the dating scene, authenticity NEVER won me any points, and quite to the contrary, the stoic/mysterious man always won out.

SomeOldThrow 7y ago
Maybe the issue is viewing relationships in terms of points and winning.
OtterEcho 7y ago
I think the stoic/mystery "distant" persona works at first but if you want to foster and deeper connection between someone as an equal than you have to open up
- shard972 7y ago
  Hes talking about dating aps though.