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> Rather than blaming a greater system of patriarchy and white supremacy for these double standards, under which we all suffer, he blamed feminists like me. I

> Rather than blaming a greater system of patriarchy and white supremacy for these double standards, under which we all suffer, he blamed feminists like me. I can't help but feel that even through a tragedy, the author still hasn't budged from her side of views.

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mjfl 7y ago
I think it adds to the existential devastation of the story...
pjc50 7y ago
I'd hope that this isn't going to become the story, but .. is she wrong?
- shusson 7y ago
  I don't know, and I don't think which side is right is really important. More that I felt that neither side compromised even through tragedy (just basing it from this article).
  - kdelok 7y ago
    I'm not sure there's an inherent value in compromise. I certainly see value in a greater understanding of the alternative perspective, but not in accepting it if you disagree.
  - nicoburns 7y ago
    > I don't think which side is right is really important Sometimes one side is just right. Compromise isn't always appropriate.
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Chris2048 7y ago
Consider that she is a senior reporter at Jezebel
jpmoral 7y ago
In what direction do you think she needs to budge? Does she need to admit that women do, in fact, prefer assholes? Or that the domestic violence she suffered was her fault?
- shusson 7y ago
  > Does she need to admit that women do, in fact, prefer assholes? Or that the domestic violence she suffered was her fault? no and no. > In what direction do you think she needs to budge One in which the author does not assume her brother should blame a greater system of patriarchy and white supremacy.
  - simion314 7y ago
    The article is obviously subjective but the statistics show that racism exists and the correlation between height and your salary/job.
    - dooglius 7y ago
      What does that have to do with what the parent is saying?
      - simion314 7y ago
        Did I interpreted the parent wrong? How did you interpret it? He said "One in which the author does not assume her brother should blame a greater system of patriarchy and white supremacy." My interpretation was that the person was not affected by the racism or the society norms and the author is wrong, I pointed out that her stories about the racism and the rest are confirmed by statistics, so I am not sure why the OP is so sure that the author is wrong, does he have more information? Yes the article is subjective and the author can be wrong but a random guy wants to disprove the author because his political views disagree with the author.
  - htfu 7y ago
    But her emphasizing with his point would logically only lead her to put further (even all) blame for his death on him, and wouldn't result in writing more "balanced" or wise but simply spiteful and patronizing, which I think this does a good job avoiding.

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mjfl 7y ago

I think it adds to the existential devastation of the story...

pjc50 7y ago

I'd hope that this isn't going to become the story, but .. is she wrong?

shusson 7y ago
I don't know, and I don't think which side is right is really important. More that I felt that neither side compromised even through tragedy (just basing it from this article).
- kdelok 7y ago
  I'm not sure there's an inherent value in compromise. I certainly see value in a greater understanding of the alternative perspective, but not in accepting it if you disagree.
- nicoburns 7y ago
  > I don't think which side is right is really important Sometimes one side is just right. Compromise isn't always appropriate.
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Chris2048 7y ago

Consider that she is a senior reporter at Jezebel

jpmoral 7y ago

In what direction do you think she needs to budge? Does she need to admit that women do, in fact, prefer assholes? Or that the domestic violence she suffered was her fault?

shusson 7y ago
> Does she need to admit that women do, in fact, prefer assholes? Or that the domestic violence she suffered was her fault? no and no. > In what direction do you think she needs to budge One in which the author does not assume her brother should blame a greater system of patriarchy and white supremacy.
- simion314 7y ago
  The article is obviously subjective but the statistics show that racism exists and the correlation between height and your salary/job.
  - dooglius 7y ago
    What does that have to do with what the parent is saying?
    - simion314 7y ago
      Did I interpreted the parent wrong? How did you interpret it? He said "One in which the author does not assume her brother should blame a greater system of patriarchy and white supremacy." My interpretation was that the person was not affected by the racism or the society norms and the author is wrong, I pointed out that her stories about the racism and the rest are confirmed by statistics, so I am not sure why the OP is so sure that the author is wrong, does he have more information? Yes the article is subjective and the author can be wrong but a random guy wants to disprove the author because his political views disagree with the author.
- htfu 7y ago
  But her emphasizing with his point would logically only lead her to put further (even all) blame for his death on him, and wouldn't result in writing more "balanced" or wise but simply spiteful and patronizing, which I think this does a good job avoiding.