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Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. I too am autistic, and it does not excuse this beha

Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. I too am autistic, and it does not excuse this behaviour. Yes people should have compassion and patience with neurodivergent people, and everyone has been with Stallman. This is not one incident, but a string of incidents that show an underlying pattern.

aortega 7y ago
>Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. Exactly, it just looks like a joke, banter to lighten the situation. It all depends on context, that we don't have.
- jdnenej 7y ago
  The person he told it to reported him so clearly it wasn't received as a joke.
  - fock 7y ago
    when did she report him? 40 years later? My memory is already fading for interactions just 5 years back, much more drunken interactions...
  - concordDance 7y ago
    Indeed, but that might just be them thinking suicide (or threats of suicide) shouldn't be joked about. People really should find and pass around a link to a full writeup of that event rather than relaying rumours.
wiz21c 7y ago
>> Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. Given the number of movies where this happens, i'd be very surprised that did not happen in reality from time to time, and that it is considered unacceptable.
- intarga 7y ago
  People also get shot in movies all the time, do you think that too should be acceptable behaviour?
  - Mirioron 7y ago
    The difference is that people who shoot others without a good reason would get punished even in the movie world. The creepy "romance" thing often ends up being rewarded in the movie world instead. I think whether something is or isn't acceptable very much depends on the people involved. Though, I also find it unacceptable, just like you.
    - watwut 7y ago
      Most action heroes would spend years in prison had they done the same thing in real life. Movie "good reason" for shooting someone, beating someone or stealing a car would not cut it in real justice system at all.
Chris2048 7y ago
> I too am autistic I heard this a lot - people on the spectrum damning Stallman. But isn't it called a spectrum for a reason?
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lostjohnny 7y ago
> Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. In fact I have strong compassion for those calling it an aggression. their life must be miserable if they can't take a simple thing like that. It happened to me more than one time, one of them stalked me, I never called them "aggresive bitches", they just had a few problems expressing emotions, that's it and I calmly explained to them why we couldn't be together. If you really are autistic, you should know what it means trying to be like everybody else when you're different.
nyberg 7y ago
> I too am autistic So am I and I often come off as awkward with a list of misinterpretations to the point of having a "do not interact with this person as they won't understand" list to avoid it. His behaviour is typical of someone with an foot on the spectrum and I don't see too much oddity in his behaviour. He's obsessed with meaning of words, comes off the wrong way, seemingly no social manners by most standards yet it's incredibly consistent which hints to different interpretations of social interaction. His behaviour isn't "problematic" in this case, rather, it's correct in a desire for exactness.

aortega 7y ago

>Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. Exactly, it just looks like a joke, banter to lighten the situation. It all depends on context, that we don't have.

jdnenej 7y ago
The person he told it to reported him so clearly it wasn't received as a joke.
- fock 7y ago
  when did she report him? 40 years later? My memory is already fading for interactions just 5 years back, much more drunken interactions...
- concordDance 7y ago
  Indeed, but that might just be them thinking suicide (or threats of suicide) shouldn't be joked about. People really should find and pass around a link to a full writeup of that event rather than relaying rumours.

wiz21c 7y ago

>> Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. Given the number of movies where this happens, i'd be very surprised that did not happen in reality from time to time, and that it is considered unacceptable.

intarga 7y ago
People also get shot in movies all the time, do you think that too should be acceptable behaviour?
- Mirioron 7y ago
  The difference is that people who shoot others without a good reason would get punished even in the movie world. The creepy "romance" thing often ends up being rewarded in the movie world instead. I think whether something is or isn't acceptable very much depends on the people involved. Though, I also find it unacceptable, just like you.
  - watwut 7y ago
    Most action heroes would spend years in prison had they done the same thing in real life. Movie "good reason" for shooting someone, beating someone or stealing a car would not cut it in real justice system at all.

Chris2048 7y ago

> I too am autistic I heard this a lot - people on the spectrum damning Stallman. But isn't it called a spectrum for a reason?

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lostjohnny 7y ago

> Telling someone you're going to kill yourself if they don't date you is clearly just trying to be friendly. In fact I have strong compassion for those calling it an aggression. their life must be miserable if they can't take a simple thing like that. It happened to me more than one time, one of them stalked me, I never called them "aggresive bitches", they just had a few problems expressing emotions, that's it and I calmly explained to them why we couldn't be together. If you really are autistic, you should know what it means trying to be like everybody else when you're different.

nyberg 7y ago

> I too am autistic So am I and I often come off as awkward with a list of misinterpretations to the point of having a "do not interact with this person as they won't understand" list to avoid it. His behaviour is typical of someone with an foot on the spectrum and I don't see too much oddity in his behaviour. He's obsessed with meaning of words, comes off the wrong way, seemingly no social manners by most standards yet it's incredibly consistent which hints to different interpretations of social interaction. His behaviour isn't "problematic" in this case, rather, it's correct in a desire for exactness.