I hang out with a lot of queer/non-binary/agender/etc folks and "they" is generally the preferred choice for both people whose gender you don't know and for a l

I hang out with a lot of queer/non-binary/agender/etc folks and "they" is generally the preferred choice for both people whose gender you don't know and for a lot of enbys. There is a very small set of agender people who would like to be called "it" but for the most part that's considered a dehumanizing insult, yeah - don't call anyone "it" unless that person has specifically said that's their preferred pronouns. People have proposed [a bunch of gender-neutral pronouns](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third-person_pronoun#Alternatives_to_generic_he https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third-person_pronoun#Alternati...) (scroll down a bit and you'll find a chart) but none of them have achieved sufficient usage to stop sounding kind of weird and funny to most English-speaking ears. s/he will probably work for written text... until you end up in circles with enough people who prefer "they" for it to start being a problem. Maybe you never will, I dunno. If you're in a large software company on the West Coast you probably will.