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> Well that's the wrong approach right there. I'm glad to serve the needs of the other person, but I'll not approach someone with this mindset at the beginning
by notyourday 7y ago
> Well that's the wrong approach right there. I'm glad to serve the needs of the other person, but I'll not approach someone with this mindset at the beginning (like sales people have to do).
And how is it working for you? Because this seems to be the approach advocated and practiced by the "nice guys" who complain that they can't get a date.
> You walk up to someone, start opening your mouth for a word, and they swipe you aside, ignoring you.
It is great! It is called "No product market fit!"
- megous 7y agoIt worked great. But it was not an online dating. > It is great! It is called "No product market fit!" But that's not really differentiating it from the other a,b,c options you provided.
- notyourday 7y ago> But that's not really differentiating it from the other a,b,c options you provided. Vs the long form? Of course it did. No time wasting for her and no time wasting for her suitor.
- pault 7y agoGuys that claim that women aren't interested in them because they're too nice can't get a date because they don't understand women or themselves. There are plenty of nice guys that have success meeting women on their own terms. Women grow out of dating jerks in their twenties. Also, when a guy starts complaining about that, pay attention to the women he is pursuing. Are they nice, well balanced, and in his "league"? In my experience the guys who say that are chasing the female version of the "asshole" they claim is stealing all the women. Source: nice guy who has been dating nice girls for 15 years.
- dang 7y agoWould you please stop posting flamebaity, unsubstantive comments to HN? You've been doing it a lot lately, and it's too much. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- notyourday 7y agoSure, I will stop.
- dang 7y agoAppreciated!