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It really is that hard though. There's plenty of men that follow all of your advice and receive hardly any matches.

by guskel 7y ago

notyourday 7y ago
If my reading is correct, the person who you responded to is a woman who has tried online dating. Even if it is not, that is probably a man who has tried online dating well and did well enough to be able to ask a woman he is dating/dated and shared what was told to them. Your response is quite illustrative of reactions men have to observations on this topic the women make -- they do not like it. They especially do not like the implication: in this specific situation men just don't bring enough to the table to make them interesting enough for a woman to engage with. Just look at @TinderNightmares. That is men's competition. That's what men are failing at exceeding. Let that sink in.
- ClumsyPilot 7y ago
  You seem to be confirming his viewpoint, if anything - the person is saying that some people are finding it difficult. Could be for any reason.
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  - guskel 7y ago
    Mostly the reason is that the women don't find most men as passing their physical attractiveness threshold.
- guskel 7y ago
  The instagram mentioned contains mostly messages. Most guys aren't even getting matches, so they are not being disqualified because of their messages.
  - notyourday 7y ago
    Correct. The images and the bio on a tinder profile has to so bad that women quite literally pick people whom women pretty much know will interact that way because even that is better than the alternatives. You are on HN. There are hundreds of posts about negotiations and evaluation of available options. BATNA is thrown around in every one of them. I am baffled that people continue to pretend that it just does not magically apply to dating. Your profile is your pitch deck. If no one wants to fund you, you should ask yourself if you need to change your pitch deck if you are convinced that your idea has a merit. Or maybe you can follow the HN startup advice and pivot to something else. If doing the same thing over and over again does not achieve the desired result, one is ought to adjust approach.

It really is that hard though. There's plenty of men that follow all of your advice and receive hardly any matches.

by guskel 7y ago

It really is that hard though. There's plenty of men that follow all of your advice and receive hardly any matches.

If my reading is correct, the person who you responded to is a woman who has tried online dating. Even if it is not, that is probably a man who has tried online dating well and did well enough to be able to ask a woman he is dating/dated and shared what was told to them. Your response is quite illustrative of reactions men have to observations on this topic the women make -- they do not like it. They especially do not like the implication: in this specific situation men just don't bring enough to the table to make them interesting enough for a woman to engage with. Just look at @TinderNightmares. That is men's competition. That's what men are failing at exceeding. Let that sink in.

ClumsyPilot 7y ago
You seem to be confirming his viewpoint, if anything - the person is saying that some people are finding it difficult. Could be for any reason.
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- guskel 7y ago
  Mostly the reason is that the women don't find most men as passing their physical attractiveness threshold.
guskel 7y ago
The instagram mentioned contains mostly messages. Most guys aren't even getting matches, so they are not being disqualified because of their messages.
- notyourday 7y ago
  Correct. The images and the bio on a tinder profile has to so bad that women quite literally pick people whom women pretty much know will interact that way because even that is better than the alternatives. You are on HN. There are hundreds of posts about negotiations and evaluation of available options. BATNA is thrown around in every one of them. I am baffled that people continue to pretend that it just does not magically apply to dating. Your profile is your pitch deck. If no one wants to fund you, you should ask yourself if you need to change your pitch deck if you are convinced that your idea has a merit. Or maybe you can follow the HN startup advice and pivot to something else. If doing the same thing over and over again does not achieve the desired result, one is ought to adjust approach.