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there's a phrase I use to remind myself of reality when I go down these thought paths: >Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men
by bluntfang 7y ago
there's a phrase I use to remind myself of reality when I go down these thought paths:
>Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.
Remind yourself the demographics who overwhelmingly commit violent crimes, especially domestic abuse, when considering relationship dynamics. Eliminating violent domestic abuse by men would help bring equity this situation.
- derefr 7y agoSimple counterarguments: gay and lesbian culture. If fear of romantic socializing were something correctly calibrated by knowledge of violent tendencies of your potential partners, then gay men would be just as afraid of asking other men out as women are—because, of course, there's the same probability of a male stranger to turn out to be a homicidal maniac, whether you're a man or a woman asking out that male stranger. But gay men are not afraid of approaching other men—in fact, they approach one-another quite successfully, usually very quickly after first deciding they're attracted to someone. And gay men aren't all suddenly dying in ditches from all the homicidal maniacs they run into. Meanwhile, lesbian women are just as socially-anxious about approaching other women, as straight women are about approaching men. One of the "universal experiences" of lesbian culture is feeling mutual attraction with someone, but neither of you working up the nerve to ask the other out, sometimes for years. Seems less like this is any rational reaction to any properties of the romantic target, and more just a property of the subject.
- bluntfang 7y agoI see you're making a lot of sweeping generalizations about groups of people. Could you provide any evidence?