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I don't think it's the porn. I think there are underlying issues that you haven't mentioned and might not even be aware of. My suggestion is that you start by n
by Porthos9K 7y ago
I don't think it's the porn. I think there are underlying issues that you haven't mentioned and might not even be aware of. My suggestion is that you start by not buying into the addiction narrative. Instead of telling yourself you're "addicted to porn", tell yourself that you're using porn as a coping mechanism, and that this is counterproductive.
I'd also suggest seeing a therapist who uses cognitive-behavioral therapy and other evidence-based methods, if you can afford to do so or have decent health insurance.
Whatever you do, avoid twelve-step programs. There's almost no evidence for their efficacy, and the success rate is no more than %10.
- combatentropy 7y agoI agree that probably there are underlying issues, and I enthusiastically recommend congnitive-behavioral therapy. But I also think it's the porn, that it's chemical, just like alcohol. Sex releases oxytocin, which is a bonding agent with whatever you happen to be looking at. > Whatever you do, avoid twelve-step programs. There's almost no evidence for their efficacy, and the success rate is no more than %10. I would say that every member of AA who has been sober for years is evidence for the efficacy. And if the success rate is around 10%, that is unsurprising, given that attendance is voluntary and they are struggling against a very strong feeling.