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"Think of it as her being a customer and you being a sales person at Best Buy." Well that's the wrong approach right there. I'm glad to serve the needs of the

by megous 7y ago

"Think of it as her being a customer and you being a sales person at Best Buy." Well that's the wrong approach right there. I'm glad to serve the needs of the other person, but I'll not approach someone with this mindset at the beginning (like sales people have to do). My approach at the beginning is that of exploration, and careless fun. I certainly don't want to start a relationship in a subservient role. Anyway, how's tinder any better? d) You walk up to someone, start opening your mouth for a word, and they swipe you aside, ignoring you. This weird liking of online interactions to real life ones doesn't really work. People act differently online, just a fact of life. Someone saying "Hi, how're you?" online may just end up being quite fine in real life. Not sure about the dickpic people though. LOL

notyourday 7y ago
> Well that's the wrong approach right there. I'm glad to serve the needs of the other person, but I'll not approach someone with this mindset at the beginning (like sales people have to do). And how is it working for you? Because this seems to be the approach advocated and practiced by the "nice guys" who complain that they can't get a date. > You walk up to someone, start opening your mouth for a word, and they swipe you aside, ignoring you. It is great! It is called "No product market fit!"
- megous 7y ago
  It worked great. But it was not an online dating. > It is great! It is called "No product market fit!" But that's not really differentiating it from the other a,b,c options you provided.
  - notyourday 7y ago
    > But that's not really differentiating it from the other a,b,c options you provided. Vs the long form? Of course it did. No time wasting for her and no time wasting for her suitor.
- pault 7y ago
  Guys that claim that women aren't interested in them because they're too nice can't get a date because they don't understand women or themselves. There are plenty of nice guys that have success meeting women on their own terms. Women grow out of dating jerks in their twenties. Also, when a guy starts complaining about that, pay attention to the women he is pursuing. Are they nice, well balanced, and in his "league"? In my experience the guys who say that are chasing the female version of the "asshole" they claim is stealing all the women. Source: nice guy who has been dating nice girls for 15 years.
- dang 7y ago
  Would you please stop posting flamebaity, unsubstantive comments to HN? You've been doing it a lot lately, and it's too much. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
  - notyourday 7y ago
    Sure, I will stop.
    - dang 7y ago
      Appreciated!

by megous 7y ago

notyourday 7y ago

> Well that's the wrong approach right there. I'm glad to serve the needs of the other person, but I'll not approach someone with this mindset at the beginning (like sales people have to do). And how is it working for you? Because this seems to be the approach advocated and practiced by the "nice guys" who complain that they can't get a date. > You walk up to someone, start opening your mouth for a word, and they swipe you aside, ignoring you. It is great! It is called "No product market fit!"

megous 7y ago
It worked great. But it was not an online dating. > It is great! It is called "No product market fit!" But that's not really differentiating it from the other a,b,c options you provided.
- notyourday 7y ago
  > But that's not really differentiating it from the other a,b,c options you provided. Vs the long form? Of course it did. No time wasting for her and no time wasting for her suitor.
pault 7y ago
Guys that claim that women aren't interested in them because they're too nice can't get a date because they don't understand women or themselves. There are plenty of nice guys that have success meeting women on their own terms. Women grow out of dating jerks in their twenties. Also, when a guy starts complaining about that, pay attention to the women he is pursuing. Are they nice, well balanced, and in his "league"? In my experience the guys who say that are chasing the female version of the "asshole" they claim is stealing all the women. Source: nice guy who has been dating nice girls for 15 years.
dang 7y ago
Would you please stop posting flamebaity, unsubstantive comments to HN? You've been doing it a lot lately, and it's too much. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- notyourday 7y ago
  Sure, I will stop.
  - dang 7y ago
    Appreciated!