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As the parent of fraternal twins, I can say this was the biggest surprise. We have two absolutely and incredibly different children in one delivery. I guess th
by partisan 7y ago
As the parent of fraternal twins, I can say this was the biggest surprise. We have two absolutely and incredibly different children in one delivery.
I guess the other lessons learned were:
- as soon as you get comfortable with a routine, it changes
- they come into this world as their own people. You can guide them to find their strengths and weaknesses and give them tools to work with those, but it really is nature at the core and nurture only helps them to be better versions of who they intrinsically are
- algy 7y agoWe had twins too (and one older sister). I _was_ amazed that, despite spending less than 48hrs apart in their first couple of years of life, they were _completely_ different. I mean, their personalities are chalk & cheese, and neither of them are anything like their sister. They're really very individual, all of them. Basically, this is just echoing what the rest of people say on here. There's no "one true way", every child is so different, you have to just trust your instincts. Lots of people will give you advice, you basically have to just nod your head and ignore it 95% of the time. The only thing I can suggest as preparation is get as much sleep as you can for the fortnight before the little one(s) due. You'll need some in the bank!
- partisan 7y agoThey are 6 years old at this point so we are past the point of banking sleep, for the most part. Scarily, they also had different sleep schedules and one had colic and the other one didn’t (fortunately). It was difficult, but we had help so I can’t complain in earnest.