This is a great writeup and mirrors a lot of what I worked on in therapy for addressing issues I had with asserting myself. Many times I would feel uncomfortab

This is a great writeup and mirrors a lot of what I worked on in therapy for addressing issues I had with asserting myself. Many times I would feel uncomfortable discussing a course of action and would say "that seems really selfish to me" and my therapist would tell me "It is selfish, and the goal of our work is to help you understand that being selfish is not always a negative thing."