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A family friend raped one of my nieces. She was 15 at the time, and got pregnant. This was a religious community, and the rapist was married. But another family
by mirimir 7y ago
A family friend raped one of my nieces. She was 15 at the time, and got pregnant. This was a religious community, and the rapist was married. But another family friend, who was single, married the young woman, and they had a long and apparently happy marriage, with two more children. So I guess that it all sort of worked out. They did forgive the rapist father, and he contributed to my niece's family.
- DoreenMichele 7y agoIt took me twenty years to conclude that the individual who raped me honestly thought there was consent on my part. And then I was able to make my peace with it and move on. I think we desperately need to work on the societal problems that foster situations like that. Far too often, there is a crucible of social baggage involved. My takeaway: Have private relationships and don't let the world butt into them. It's hard enough for two people to agree what's okay. It gets vastly harder when other parties get involved. I read one article where two college students hooked up, everything was initially fine, then the girl's mother basically talked her into charging the guy with rape. If you weren't there, I don't want your opinion of what happened to me. You can apply your personal baggage to your own sex life/experiences. Keep it out of mine.
- mirimir 7y agoSounds good to me. Maybe with some neutral expert mediaon.
- watwut 7y agoShe was quite lucky then that she did not had to marry her rapist. That would sux more. She did not had choice in whether she can stay in contact with her rapist, tho, despite the money. But it is nice she did not had to marry him, have children with him and be dependent on his income.