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In the workplace dating coworkers is generally frowned upon. At a university, dating other students is so commonplace that a large portion of people meet their

by klipt 7y ago

In the workplace dating coworkers is generally frowned upon. At a university, dating other students is so commonplace that a large portion of people meet their spouses that way. Title IX may want to treat dating at universities with the same disdain as in the workplace, but it's not going to be an easy cultural shift.

Lazare 7y ago
> In the workplace dating coworkers is generally frowned upon. And at a restaurant, being in a relationship with a fellow patron is quite common. Similarly, no legal or cultural ban against dating your room mate when you rent a house (much to the relief of married couples everywhere). Students are (mostly) not employees of the university, but they are customers of educational services and (quite often) tenants. A university has a number of relationships to students, and a number of responsibilities, both to the (alleged) predators and to the larger student body. I mentioned a startup situation in the hopes it would seem relevant to many here (surely we've all had at least one co-worker that was disruptive?), but trying to view this purely through the lens of employment law will get you nowhere.
- weberc2 7y ago
  Universities are paid largely by federal student loans and tax dollars. This is not a standard business/patron agreement. Expelling a student $50K in debt can ruin their life. The university owes them a fair trial. And there is no excuse for the overt discrimination or other shenanigans we’re seeing.
closeparen 7y ago
Not sure about the validity of the poll, but by at least one indication 15% of couples meet at work vs. 6% at school. https://www.reportlinker.com/insight/finding-love-online.html https://www.reportlinker.com/insight/finding-love-online.htm...
- Udik 7y ago
  The amount of couples forming at work before starting to work (i.e. while in college) is probably approaching zero. This is to say that of course the poll at age 40 gives a very different result from the same poll at age 25.

by klipt 7y ago

Lazare 7y ago

> In the workplace dating coworkers is generally frowned upon. And at a restaurant, being in a relationship with a fellow patron is quite common. Similarly, no legal or cultural ban against dating your room mate when you rent a house (much to the relief of married couples everywhere). Students are (mostly) not employees of the university, but they are customers of educational services and (quite often) tenants. A university has a number of relationships to students, and a number of responsibilities, both to the (alleged) predators and to the larger student body. I mentioned a startup situation in the hopes it would seem relevant to many here (surely we've all had at least one co-worker that was disruptive?), but trying to view this purely through the lens of employment law will get you nowhere.

weberc2 7y ago
Universities are paid largely by federal student loans and tax dollars. This is not a standard business/patron agreement. Expelling a student $50K in debt can ruin their life. The university owes them a fair trial. And there is no excuse for the overt discrimination or other shenanigans we’re seeing.

closeparen 7y ago

Not sure about the validity of the poll, but by at least one indication 15% of couples meet at work vs. 6% at school. https://www.reportlinker.com/insight/finding-love-online.html https://www.reportlinker.com/insight/finding-love-online.htm...

Udik 7y ago
The amount of couples forming at work before starting to work (i.e. while in college) is probably approaching zero. This is to say that of course the poll at age 40 gives a very different result from the same poll at age 25.