There's a men vs women trope of trying to solve the problem vs actually listening. I suspect it actually applies a lot to these situations. Once someone's to

There's a men vs women trope of trying to solve the problem vs actually listening. I suspect it actually applies a lot to these situations. Once someone's to that point, they either don't want you to help - or don't think they want you to help. If they believed it could be fixed they wouldn't be in this situation. But no-one wants to die alone, so you can offer them someone to listen.