i honestly didn't. it just sorta ended up happening and then i did my best to take care of my son and make sure his needs were met. best two years of my life un

i honestly didn't. it just sorta ended up happening and then i did my best to take care of my son and make sure his needs were met. best two years of my life until my ex left me and took him away. but ultimately my advice is that while you can definitely learn from others, read books, and such, a lot of parenting is instinctual and about having an empathic connection with your own flesh and blood (or adopted child if that's the route you choose to take as my mother did with me). we have deeply encoded responses to children within our genetics and i think that it's really important to trust those rather than ignore them specifically for data that was acquired externally from a third party source. every situation is going to be different, and it's important to remain fluid and flexible