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> I did a study of eHarmony years ago and came to the conclusion that only 10% of all "matches" were people who had the capability of returning a message. Do y

by omega3 7y ago

> I did a study of eHarmony years ago and came to the conclusion that only 10% of all "matches" were people who had the capability of returning a message. Do you mind expanding as to how you were able to establish this?

MiroF 7y ago
Not the OP, but on Bumble, I matched with someone who I knew - she showed me her app and no such match had appeared on her app. I think this sort of behavior is not uncommon.
- MiddleEndian 7y ago
  Any more info on this or maybe some screen shots? I'm not on the market but given the complaints about the current state of dating apps I think lots of people would be curious to see this.
  - MiroF 7y ago
    Unfortunately I don't have screenshots. I'm happy to provide more info - for instance, to those who might say "she just didn't want to acknowledge you had matched," I saw it with my own eyes and also we were already involved with each other at the time. FWIW, my perception is that this is not the case on Tinder, but obviously can't be sure.
moron4hire 7y ago
At the time (mind you, this was 10 years ago) eHarmony had a "tell": paid-member profiles were rendered subtly differently than free ones. I got fed up with using the site and decided I was just going to game it and see what I could learn, so I started taking meticulous notes on what I saw. I took every match that was sent, I kept notes on how I replied, and eventually some patterns emerged. Eventually had it confirmed when a person I was matched with, and went on a date with, decided to let her membership lapse and suddenly her profile was rendered differently. eHarmony's system only let you message people from a daily, "curated" list of matches. On any given day, you'd get 6 or 7 profiles on your email to review and decide to message or not. I'm sure you just did the math, 10% of 7 is less than one. Less than one viable connection a day. Once I got past that "90% of these matches are dead ends" hurdle, it turned out about 50% of the people who were capable of replying actually did. I don't remember the exact breakdown, but basically there were a number of questionnaires you why through before getting through to love messages and asking people out. It was essentially a 50/50 filter at each step. IIRC, it was something like a half a percent chance that any profile eHarmony sent you would end up in an actual date. I suppose dating sites figure, if someone finds their soul mate, they won't need to pay for a membership anymore, so don't actually match anyone, just strong them along for as long as possible.

by omega3 7y ago

MiroF 7y ago

Not the OP, but on Bumble, I matched with someone who I knew - she showed me her app and no such match had appeared on her app. I think this sort of behavior is not uncommon.

MiddleEndian 7y ago
Any more info on this or maybe some screen shots? I'm not on the market but given the complaints about the current state of dating apps I think lots of people would be curious to see this.
- MiroF 7y ago
  Unfortunately I don't have screenshots. I'm happy to provide more info - for instance, to those who might say "she just didn't want to acknowledge you had matched," I saw it with my own eyes and also we were already involved with each other at the time. FWIW, my perception is that this is not the case on Tinder, but obviously can't be sure.

moron4hire 7y ago

At the time (mind you, this was 10 years ago) eHarmony had a "tell": paid-member profiles were rendered subtly differently than free ones. I got fed up with using the site and decided I was just going to game it and see what I could learn, so I started taking meticulous notes on what I saw. I took every match that was sent, I kept notes on how I replied, and eventually some patterns emerged. Eventually had it confirmed when a person I was matched with, and went on a date with, decided to let her membership lapse and suddenly her profile was rendered differently. eHarmony's system only let you message people from a daily, "curated" list of matches. On any given day, you'd get 6 or 7 profiles on your email to review and decide to message or not. I'm sure you just did the math, 10% of 7 is less than one. Less than one viable connection a day. Once I got past that "90% of these matches are dead ends" hurdle, it turned out about 50% of the people who were capable of replying actually did. I don't remember the exact breakdown, but basically there were a number of questionnaires you why through before getting through to love messages and asking people out. It was essentially a 50/50 filter at each step. IIRC, it was something like a half a percent chance that any profile eHarmony sent you would end up in an actual date. I suppose dating sites figure, if someone finds their soul mate, they won't need to pay for a membership anymore, so don't actually match anyone, just strong them along for as long as possible.