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I'm a live and let live, everyone has their own pain and their own story, we all are just doing our best sort of guy... But I want to string that guy up.

newnewpdro 7y ago
It appears he's already dead. https://www.ibtimes.com/who-carmen-tarleton-lye-attack-victims-ex-husband-dies-prison-2630203 https://www.ibtimes.com/who-carmen-tarleton-lye-attack-victi...
- 0x38B 7y ago
  Quoting the linked article: “I have fully forgiven him and I don’t have the same attitude that a lot of people have with his treatment of me,” Tarleton said. “I have moved on so well and in so many ways. I feel like, for me, it ends a big chapter in my life.” More than what happened to her, what stands out to me is that she's moved on. That's strength. There are things that no one can take away.
  - newnewpdro 7y ago
    I wouldn't be so eager to highlight these statements. Self-blame is very common in victims of domestic abuse, and when one suffers from it they're predisposed towards "forgiveness". It's really a compensation for feeling somehow responsible for their own abuse, which is very unfortunate. I'm glad she seems to have found some closure in his death though.
  - DoreenMichele 7y ago
    You move on so it doesn't steal anymore of your future. It's the only thing you can do. Stewing about it just lets it take yet more of your life when the cost has already been too high. In most cases, no, the people trying to bleed you emotionally with their pity party for you aren't going to do a damn thing to help improve your quality of life. They will only add to your suffering. Shutting them down as efficiently as possible as just part of protecting yourself from yet more damage in a cold, cruel world full of assholes.
kipchak 7y ago
At some point I think practically speaking people are broken beyond repair, at least compared to the amount of good you could do for other people with the same amount of resources.
monktastic1 7y ago
> I'm a live and let live, everyone has their own pain and their own story, we all are just doing our best sort of guy... But I want to string that guy up. I don't think empathy and punishment are at odds with each other. It's perfectly possible (and, I think, healthy) to have deep compassion for both victims and perpetrators, while still taking the right corrective measures. Depending on what exactly "stringing up" entails, I might be right there with you.
- stickfigure 7y ago
  It's incredibly sad that a horribly abused dog viciously attacks humans; it didn't didn't deserve that life. You still put it down.

newnewpdro 7y ago

It appears he's already dead. https://www.ibtimes.com/who-carmen-tarleton-lye-attack-victims-ex-husband-dies-prison-2630203 https://www.ibtimes.com/who-carmen-tarleton-lye-attack-victi...

0x38B 7y ago
Quoting the linked article: “I have fully forgiven him and I don’t have the same attitude that a lot of people have with his treatment of me,” Tarleton said. “I have moved on so well and in so many ways. I feel like, for me, it ends a big chapter in my life.” More than what happened to her, what stands out to me is that she's moved on. That's strength. There are things that no one can take away.
- newnewpdro 7y ago
  I wouldn't be so eager to highlight these statements. Self-blame is very common in victims of domestic abuse, and when one suffers from it they're predisposed towards "forgiveness". It's really a compensation for feeling somehow responsible for their own abuse, which is very unfortunate. I'm glad she seems to have found some closure in his death though.
- DoreenMichele 7y ago
  You move on so it doesn't steal anymore of your future. It's the only thing you can do. Stewing about it just lets it take yet more of your life when the cost has already been too high. In most cases, no, the people trying to bleed you emotionally with their pity party for you aren't going to do a damn thing to help improve your quality of life. They will only add to your suffering. Shutting them down as efficiently as possible as just part of protecting yourself from yet more damage in a cold, cruel world full of assholes.

kipchak 7y ago

At some point I think practically speaking people are broken beyond repair, at least compared to the amount of good you could do for other people with the same amount of resources.

monktastic1 7y ago

> I'm a live and let live, everyone has their own pain and their own story, we all are just doing our best sort of guy... But I want to string that guy up. I don't think empathy and punishment are at odds with each other. It's perfectly possible (and, I think, healthy) to have deep compassion for both victims and perpetrators, while still taking the right corrective measures. Depending on what exactly "stringing up" entails, I might be right there with you.

stickfigure 7y ago
It's incredibly sad that a horribly abused dog viciously attacks humans; it didn't didn't deserve that life. You still put it down.