> What is a point of working whole day so you can pay another person to raise your kid? Who's kid are you raising then anyway? Careful not to over-generalize.

> What is a point of working whole day so you can pay another person to raise your kid? Who's kid are you raising then anyway? Careful not to over-generalize. It's quite possible to be an involved parent, while still sending your kid to daycare etc. I'm not sure whether you've raised kids, but one thing about babies / toddlers is that in certain phases, they're absolutely relentless. You literally cannot take a 5 min break for 12 hours or so. That was a surprise to me. EDIT > Except when they're asleep. I do have similar feelings about nannies, though. Im sure there are great nannies out there, but what I typically see are glassy-eyed toddlers being wheeled around by nannies who are chatting on the cell phone. The kids get affection, but very little learning interaction. That can't compare with the kind of high-bandwidth learning a curious child can have with an involved parent and mentor. For a famous example, consider the special relationship that Feynman had with his father.