I'm illustrating the problem, which is that we have to decide that one gender or group has "a thing" to the exclusion of everyone else. I don't see how your so

I'm illustrating the problem, which is that we have to decide that one gender or group has "a thing" to the exclusion of everyone else. I don't see how your solution of "men hav[ing this] thing" helps men who have body image issues, nor women who don't feel they have close friends. It's not like the dude with body image issues is saying "oh, thank god my problems would be recognized if only my issue were a lack of close friends."