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I'm an interrupter, by nature. And I also have a tendency to talk when I'm nervous. As TFA says, I'm fine with other interrupters. We have great conversations.
by mirimir 7y ago
I'm an interrupter, by nature. And I also have a tendency to talk when I'm nervous. As TFA says, I'm fine with other interrupters. We have great conversations. We start finishing each others thoughts. But otherwise, not so great.
Probably the best insight that I got from group therapy was being told that I needed to learn when to shut up. So I've learned to be adaptive. And when I'm nervous, I've learned to draw people out.
- phs318u 7y ago> the best insight that I got from group therapy was being told that I needed to learn when to shut up. A respected manager that I really looked up to once gave me very similar advice. “When you have the answer, know the solution, can understand the problem, can see other’s mistakes? Just shut up.” Fifteen years later, I have...improved somewhat.
- WhompingWindows 7y agoDo you ever stop thinking about what you're about to say and instead focus on how your audience is reacting to what you just said? I find watching peoples' faces and any cues that reveal their emotion helps me gauge whether or not I'm having a "not so great" conversation, which allows me to be less interrupt-y and more of a listener.
- mirimir 7y agoYes, I do that constantly. I tried direct sales for a while, and one of my long-term jobs involved public speaking. So I've had some training. Also, and maybe this will seem strange, I often feel like I'm just pretending to be a "normal person".