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You can very much influence that. If you're a contrarian as you appear to be - don't send your kids to school where dominant culture is one you don't want them

You can very much influence that. If you're a contrarian as you appear to be - don't send your kids to school where dominant culture is one you don't want them to belong to. You can still send them to a public school where backgrounds are varied. Coupled with informed perspective from an open minded parent that kind of experience is probably quite powerful in shaping a young mind. You could go a step further and home school them yourself - in that way you can completely control their socialization. Just beware that human psychology is extremely complex and the results will probably differ from expected in any case. I find it odd that people pile fortunes for their kids while claiming that they don't have time to teach them and spend time with them. When in reality your kids the your biggest insurance and investment of your life. What is a point of working whole day so you can pay another person to raise your kid? Who's kid are you raising then anyway?

JabavuAdams 16y ago
> What is a point of working whole day so you can pay another person to raise your kid? Who's kid are you raising then anyway? Careful not to over-generalize. It's quite possible to be an involved parent, while still sending your kid to daycare etc. I'm not sure whether you've raised kids, but one thing about babies / toddlers is that in certain phases, they're absolutely relentless. You literally cannot take a 5 min break for 12 hours or so. That was a surprise to me. EDIT > Except when they're asleep. I do have similar feelings about nannies, though. Im sure there are great nannies out there, but what I typically see are glassy-eyed toddlers being wheeled around by nannies who are chatting on the cell phone. The kids get affection, but very little learning interaction. That can't compare with the kind of high-bandwidth learning a curious child can have with an involved parent and mentor. For a famous example, consider the special relationship that Feynman had with his father.

JabavuAdams 16y ago

> What is a point of working whole day so you can pay another person to raise your kid? Who's kid are you raising then anyway? Careful not to over-generalize. It's quite possible to be an involved parent, while still sending your kid to daycare etc. I'm not sure whether you've raised kids, but one thing about babies / toddlers is that in certain phases, they're absolutely relentless. You literally cannot take a 5 min break for 12 hours or so. That was a surprise to me. EDIT > Except when they're asleep. I do have similar feelings about nannies, though. Im sure there are great nannies out there, but what I typically see are glassy-eyed toddlers being wheeled around by nannies who are chatting on the cell phone. The kids get affection, but very little learning interaction. That can't compare with the kind of high-bandwidth learning a curious child can have with an involved parent and mentor. For a famous example, consider the special relationship that Feynman had with his father.