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There's some chapters on emotional development in the book emotional intelligence that's a summary of social sciences. It's about nurturing empathy and sociali
by cynusx 7y ago
There's some chapters on emotional development in the book emotional intelligence that's a summary of social sciences.
It's about nurturing empathy and socializing behaviour. There's also some materials on how to counter natural anxiety (new foods/new people/new experiences) by forcing controlled exposure.
From my own experience having a child with my wife (an engineer as well) reading up on all the materials. Having and maintaining a trust-bond with your child is the most important, especially when you realize there is lots of bad advice out there related to baby sleep.
Essentially, the first 6 months your baby is too "stupid" to cry for nothing but basic needs like:
1/ too warm
2/ too cold
3/ hungry
4/ thirsty
5/ tired (need sleep)
6/ oversensitive (too much light/noise)
7/ wet diapers
8/ pain (sickness/teething/diaper rash)
Afterwards she/he can start to get into habits like waking up for some breastmilk while it's possible to go without. But babies are pretty flexible and can adopt a new routine within 3 days of enforcing that routine.
- michaelbuckbee 7y agoI really like this advice, we'd often get frustrated with the crying and remind ourselves to "go through the checklist" and more often than not it was one of the basic needs you mentioned that needed attending to.
- matt_the_bass 7y agoI found that the cries were very quickly pretty distinct about what was the source of the problem. Even 3 month olds communicate if you listen.
- kqr 7y agoThis thread repeats advice I've heard a few times before, but in a good way. It definitely sounds like the type of advice that bears repetition.
- someonenice 7y agoYour comment history suggests you are a bot ?
- cynusx 7y agoThat's right, we learned a lot from this youtube video on baby sounds: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_P4Kjh-GX3c https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_P4Kjh-GX3c It's helpful as it shortens the elimination process you'd have to run to figure out which one of the basic needs are in play when she's crying
- nwah1 7y agoConstipation is a tricky one, since you don't normally think of it. Although that is probably more of a problem for toddlers.
- cynusx 7y agoyea, there's also one if they have a painful reflux. Luckily my child was a happy refluxer.