> regardless that both parties are seeking the same pleasure I see this a lot in the tech community. People want to be allies of inclusiveness [in the context

> regardless that both parties are seeking the same pleasure I see this a lot in the tech community. People want to be allies of inclusiveness [in the context of corporate professionalism, while trying to apply it everywhere], but the current iteration of this results in still infantilizing women that make different choices and vicariously assuming they're victims when that woman's current aspirations have nothing to do with an executive role in a corporate environment. My non-compliance with that idea is easy to villify, people can choose to assume that I'm perhaps perpetuating some unilateral toxic masculinity, or something, distinct from what I and the other people involved perceive to be a respectful consensual environment. A reality is that context is important, people can exist in different modes and states and feel very respected. I've had overwhelmingly positive experiences from approaching people with this understanding