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I don't think my marriage would be as good if I went into it with an exit plan. For instance, it would be easier for some things, especially huge things, to be
by humanrebar 7y ago
I don't think my marriage would be as good if I went into it with an exit plan.
For instance, it would be easier for some things, especially huge things, to be "her problem" instead of "our problem" if I had an escape hatch present in my subconscious.
- icebraining 7y agoNeither of my grandparents "escaped" (by which I assume you mean divorce), yet it still ended, and my grandmother lived over 30 years alone.
- humanrebar 7y agoSure. That's typically in the vows. I was more saying that people don't vow to be together "until I get a few promotions, you get fat, or I contract chronic FOMO-itis". Those who have expectations like that tend to be hurting themselves too.
- username90 7y agoI think that making the husband socially dependent on the wife is bad for the same reasons making the wife financially dependent on the husband is. You can say that it goes against the spirit of marriage, but I'd say that those things makes people stay in unhealthy relationships.
- humanrebar 7y agoI didn't say anything like that.