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The best way I can describe therapy to a tech oriented person is this: Therapy is rubber-ducking for your brain and thinking patterns. Sure, you can figure th

The best way I can describe therapy to a tech oriented person is this: Therapy is rubber-ducking for your brain and thinking patterns. Sure, you can figure the bugs by yourself but you often get stuck in your ways of thinking which make you blind to them. The therapist is the equivalent of a senior brain & behavior engineer. Use them, talk to them. Talk about your quirks and your bugs. You may think you have a perfect solution, but that solution is most likely flawed. You wouldn't expect a software to debug itself. You wouldn't expect a junior to fix huge breaking issues.

tiborsaas 7y ago
I never been to therapy or talked to a psychologist, but I want to. What I'm afraid of is that I might pick a wrong "brain and mind engineer" and it might take a while and a lot of money to realize it only to go back to square one. I found one recently, but after my second email she just replied that she's overbooked. I have issues with rejection among other things :)
- tikhonj 7y ago
  I was in a similar situation, and at some point I just realized that I was better off seeing some therapist rather than trying to guess the best one. So I just found one that was within walking distance and had time available. It worked out well in my case. If the first one doesn't work out, they might recommend somebody more suited for you specifically or, in the worst case, you can just repeat the process above. Unless you can get a recommendation from somebody you know, I think this is the best option. It's usually better to do something than to do nothing :).
- Raphmedia 7y ago
  Going to a therapist that you don't like isn't a setback. It's getting closer to being aware of which kind of therapy is good for you. It's perfectly okay to jump around. The first appointments are usually going to be freeform discussions, so you'll be able to see if there's a connection.

tiborsaas 7y ago

I never been to therapy or talked to a psychologist, but I want to. What I'm afraid of is that I might pick a wrong "brain and mind engineer" and it might take a while and a lot of money to realize it only to go back to square one. I found one recently, but after my second email she just replied that she's overbooked. I have issues with rejection among other things :)

tikhonj 7y ago
I was in a similar situation, and at some point I just realized that I was better off seeing some therapist rather than trying to guess the best one. So I just found one that was within walking distance and had time available. It worked out well in my case. If the first one doesn't work out, they might recommend somebody more suited for you specifically or, in the worst case, you can just repeat the process above. Unless you can get a recommendation from somebody you know, I think this is the best option. It's usually better to do something than to do nothing :).
Raphmedia 7y ago
Going to a therapist that you don't like isn't a setback. It's getting closer to being aware of which kind of therapy is good for you. It's perfectly okay to jump around. The first appointments are usually going to be freeform discussions, so you'll be able to see if there's a connection.