Not sure if this is helpful or not; but I have a very similar 8 year old. (Although his emotional maturity isn't quite as far behind as your child, and his resp

Not sure if this is helpful or not; but I have a very similar 8 year old. (Although his emotional maturity isn't quite as far behind as your child, and his response is to shut down rather than attack.) Similar challenge with IQ where he works 3-4 years ahead of grade levels and tests as profoundly gifted. We found a charter school that mixes home school and in class education. So he is in a typical school environment 2 days a week and we home school the other three days. This has been a good mix for us; he can get some socialization at school (plus other activities we are involved in). It's not as all encompassing and stressful as a full 5 day a week school would be. We can do academically advanced work 3 days a week; while still giving him a chance to work his underdeveloped social skills with a little less pressure on the system. Best of luck; parenting can be hard :)