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Having spent plenty of time in both, I think it's actually a depressingly good microcosm. You have a status hierarchy. Those at the top can be arbitrarily cruel
by Kalium 7y ago
Having spent plenty of time in both, I think it's actually a depressingly good microcosm. You have a status hierarchy. Those at the top can be arbitrarily cruel to those at the bottom with minimal consequences so long as they don't cross the delinated brightlines. Everyone is obsessed with status and its markers, because it determines everything about your life - who you can talk to, who you can date, who you can work with, etc.
The people who are supposed to be overseeing this and averting this mess generally have other concerns, limiting their ability and willingness to intercede.
Really, the only changes are the time-horizon and how the social groups are sorted.
- rayiner 7y agoWhere do you live? This is not my experience with adulthood at all, especially once I left DC.
- Kalium 7y agoA planet known as "Earth", among a species of jumped-up plains apes. I've found this to be a pretty apt generalization in literally every place I've lived, which at this point encompasses a half-dozen major cities spread out over several thousand miles.
- teucris 7y ago> Everyone is obsessed with status and its markers, Obsessed? Some. Aware? Everyone is aware of them, consciously or not. > because it determines everything about your life - who you can talk to, who you can date, who you can work with, etc. I mean, sort of. It’s always present in these determinations, but it’s only one factor. I believe you’re right to say that some exposure to a status-focused microcosm is good for understanding how to navigate society, but I really don’t think it’s as extreme as you make it out to be.
- harryh 7y agoI think one of the key differences between childhood and adulthood is that status in childhood is based solely on one's ability to play the status game. In adulthood it more based on one's ability to actually perform socially useful activities. Not 100% obviously, but a lot more than childhood.