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I get how text replaced voice, but something I don't quite understand is this: Remember when friends and family visited each other unannounced? Why did that us

by Reedx 7y ago

I get how text replaced voice, but something I don't quite understand is this: Remember when friends and family visited each other unannounced? Why did that used to be welcomed[1], but today it's not? 1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Swzvm-gXHg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Swzvm-gXHg

mattnewton 7y ago
I suspect it's because of two side effects of more efficient communication. A) It is effectively painless to instantly check with me whether or not I am free at any hour of any day with smartphones, so not doing so becomes less understandable B) I am in touch with many many more people over the internet even in my local area than I could ever hope to hang out with (or want to, as somewhat of an introvert workaholic) I like to be intentional and plan out my social activities with a calendar, ideally a few days in advance, but I also don't mind meeting up on short notice. But any amount of notice is necessary to even make sure I am home, much less wanting to be social. I actually feel smartphones have made me more active socially because instead of sitting around , we can plan things the day before while waiting for the bus, walking, etc.
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mikestew 7y ago
Remember when friends and family visited each other unannounced? I remember when it was considered rude, yes. I don't know where that guy grew up, but Mom's in the middle of making supper, Dad's in the garage, I'm working on homework, and we're just supposed to drop everything because you can't pick up a phone first? No, unlike the video, when I'm in my underwear with unkempt hair, covered in Cheetos dust from a CoD marathon, I am not jumping for joy if the doorbell rings. Before mobile phones, exceptions were made. "Hey, I live two towns over, but was in the neighborhood unexpectedly...I hope now is not a bad time." But one made note of the fact that it is an unannounced visit.
post_break 7y ago
As I kid I was excited about the doorbell. As I got older I realized how much of a chore it is. I feel like facetime calls are in the realm of a doorbell now.
JohnFen 7y ago
I'm an old guy, but I don't remember a time when this was generally welcomed. It was done, but it was always considered rude. How rude depends on the circumstances.

by Reedx 7y ago

mattnewton 7y ago

I suspect it's because of two side effects of more efficient communication. A) It is effectively painless to instantly check with me whether or not I am free at any hour of any day with smartphones, so not doing so becomes less understandable B) I am in touch with many many more people over the internet even in my local area than I could ever hope to hang out with (or want to, as somewhat of an introvert workaholic) I like to be intentional and plan out my social activities with a calendar, ideally a few days in advance, but I also don't mind meeting up on short notice. But any amount of notice is necessary to even make sure I am home, much less wanting to be social. I actually feel smartphones have made me more active socially because instead of sitting around , we can plan things the day before while waiting for the bus, walking, etc.

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mikestew 7y ago

Remember when friends and family visited each other unannounced? I remember when it was considered rude, yes. I don't know where that guy grew up, but Mom's in the middle of making supper, Dad's in the garage, I'm working on homework, and we're just supposed to drop everything because you can't pick up a phone first? No, unlike the video, when I'm in my underwear with unkempt hair, covered in Cheetos dust from a CoD marathon, I am not jumping for joy if the doorbell rings. Before mobile phones, exceptions were made. "Hey, I live two towns over, but was in the neighborhood unexpectedly...I hope now is not a bad time." But one made note of the fact that it is an unannounced visit.

post_break 7y ago

As I kid I was excited about the doorbell. As I got older I realized how much of a chore it is. I feel like facetime calls are in the realm of a doorbell now.

JohnFen 7y ago

I'm an old guy, but I don't remember a time when this was generally welcomed. It was done, but it was always considered rude. How rude depends on the circumstances.