I agree, I don't think these generalizations are accurate. If anything the opposite has social encouragement. It sounds like the author was engaged to a perso

I agree, I don't think these generalizations are accurate. If anything the opposite has social encouragement. It sounds like the author was engaged to a person who is more emotionally distant than average. But I also wonder how she would've responded to the opposite. In this case, he didn't fawn over her by telling her how beautiful she looked in her dress, for example. At the same time, that sort of aloofness might have contributed something to her interest in him. If he were the type to overly fawn over her, she might not have considered him as high status, and might never have tried to marry him.