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I’m not living with my long term partner, out of choice. It has all the benefits you mention, but overall we spend more on some necessities / luxuries. For exam

by ntlk 7y ago

I’m not living with my long term partner, out of choice. It has all the benefits you mention, but overall we spend more on some necessities / luxuries. For example, both homes have the same coffee making facilities, toothbrushes etc. The trade off is worth it for us. There are times when we both really appreciate having some space, it’s sometimes nice to be on my own after a long day at work. Edit: spelling

drakonka 7y ago
This is really interesting; if you don't mind me asking, how long have you been together? One point of tension that I can imagine if I keep going with this kind of dynamic long term is as follows: We will likely want to spend some longer stretches of time together at some point. Not permanently, but I could imagine maybe living together for a week or so at a time. At that point I can imagine my partner not feeling truly comfortable at my place because it isn't "home". Have you run into this kind of thing? Do either of you care? Do both of your places feel comfortable enough to be "homey", or there any of that slightly uncomfortable sense of being a guest in someone else's house?