Speaking as someone who intends to have children with my partner, you're basically right about why we want to move in together. That, and it simplifies a lot of

Speaking as someone who intends to have children with my partner, you're basically right about why we want to move in together. That, and it simplifies a lot of the logistics of being in a long-term relationship for us. Right now I have to haul overnight bags to her house and plan how I'm going to get fresh clothes and stuff during the week, because I'm usually spending the night at her place. But when we move in together all my things will be colocated at her place. And I'll be able to cook dinner and help take care of us, which is more difficult when living separately. We still both recognize the need for personal space within our shared home so we are discussing how we can accomplish that as we also decide how we're going to move in together. I think the discussion of what your goals are is a critical part of any relationship, and personally as someone who doesn't share your goals I still think it's great that you know what they are and that you've discussed them with your partner. Because the communication is actually what defines a good relationship, and not this stepwise cultural treadmill toward cohabitating and having kids.