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> This obviously wouldn’t make your career life any better but you might have other things going on that would lead you not to describe life as a failure. I ha
by ryanmercer 7y ago
> This obviously wouldn’t make your career life any better but you might have other things going on that would lead you not to describe life as a failure.
I have my religious pursuits and what not but by failure I mostly mean I have no meaningful connections. All of my friends are married and/or married with children, I don't have much family left alive, I've got my mother living with me until she dies which could be tomorrow or might be another 20 years which puts a bit of a damper on pursuing romantic interests and at my age most women are divorced with multiple children and don't have much free time and aren't really open to the idea of pursuing something where someone's retired mother would be moving in with them.
Yes I've got a comfortable place to sleep and food to eat and what not but my job is something OCR & 'dumb' AI will eventually largely automate, I have no intimate (in a non sexual sense) connections like I did in school because everyone is busy with their families now, I've just got a house plant which has entirely overtaken the kitchen bar and is now spilling over onto the floor and my stuffed animal Bun from my first Easter that I tell good night every night as he sits on a book shelf in his dotage.
My legacy, as it stands, is a blog that will disappear 1-12 months after I die and a frail old man of a purple anthropomorphic rabbit.
- CogitoCogito 7y agoI would still recommend something similar to my original post. Try to find pursuits that are your own but do them within the context of a group where you can build friendships. I think that sports clubs are great for and especially running since there's really no bar to entry (hell many of the clubs are jokingly called drinking groups with running problems), but it could really be something else. No matter what if you want that social side of things you're going to have to go out there and build it up yourself. It's not actually some crazy impossible task; there are in fact huge numbers of people exactly like you whose friends have left/gotten busy. But you do need to go out there and take the first steps.