It matches my experience much better than the « self-motivation » theory. If you have self-motivation, it’s because you are in the correct chemistry, brainwise.

It matches my experience much better than the « self-motivation » theory. If you have self-motivation, it’s because you are in the correct chemistry, brainwise. Maybe you are loved, maybe you eat well, maybe you live in a building that has proper O2 venting. But being able to motivate yourself for work and sports and friends is the result. When one says « Motivate yourself and all will be better! », they are just saying that they are in a fortunate situation and they don’t see why others wouldn’t be. It’s similar to a rich man telling a poor man: « Spend and you will be rich, that’s what I do all the time! » No, you are not « able to go through tough times because of the strength of character» but because you are still well despite temporarily being disappointed. Example: > Self discipline in my definition is how you react on those brain calls. Can you shut them down for a while, or will you find an excuse to stop? Ok, this guy is healthy. Probably loved, probably has expectations for the future, he probably has reasons to work hard, because he gains hard when he works hard. > Currently I am experimenting on myself, « Currently I am feeling good, so I can spend this extraordinary energy into something that will make me even healthier » > by reflecting and talking to my brain under stress I assure you this is not how the brain works. Basically he has hope for the future, so he can sell hope to his brain. It is extremely important for the future of USA, because USA is currently experimenting a « Boy Crisis » (from the title of the book) where men can’t get motivation, and they spiral into drugs. Particularly in the mid-west, but it’s a trend in the whole Western world. That’s why some experts are screaming at the dangerosity of having anti-white-male policies in pretty much all areas (work, NGOs, etc), it’s because, I don’t know whether this is the root cause, but at least it increases and compounds the problem. And finally, that’s why a psy is also able to evaluate what your remaining resources are, and use those to make yourself start a project where you will receive more love and hope (or exchange more love), but that is entirely different from the « be more motivated so you have more energy » advice.