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I tend to stay away from Instagram as I once read a study (too lazy to find the paper) that Instagram is more detrimental to mental health than other social net

I tend to stay away from Instagram as I once read a study (too lazy to find the paper) that Instagram is more detrimental to mental health than other social networks and is generally to be avoided (partly this is because you are comparing other people's highlight reel to your boring drab life). I use Facebook, albeit sparingly and only ever to make meaningful interactions with my family, and nothing else. I don't feverishly 'check in' to locations, don't engage in 'groups', don't 'like' a million-and-one things, or otherwise engage in the Facebook app in any meaningful way. It means Facebook can't build a dossier of my interests, although they do know my social graph, but then: I'm not a person of interest anyway. I am actually very forgettable. For Twitter, I have a locked down account and only follow what I'm interested in. I don't actively seek to get more followers, and have literally nothing in my bio that is about me. I don't use my real name. My account is purely for discovery of positive news, and content that stimulates me intellectually. I recently started to experiment with Neuro Linguistic Programming[0] and a big part of that is deciding what you pay attention to (especially online) and feeding your brain with content that enables you to grow as a person and not be bogged down with negative content that only appeals to your 'monkey brain'. I haven't gone to extremes by cutting out all social media, instead I just use it mindfully and by carefully choosing the types of content I consume. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming

LASR 7y ago
My wife is very much addicted to Instagram. Every date, every vacation, pretty much anything we ever do for fun is dictacted by what someone already did and posted to Instagram. Sometimes, it feels like she has zero independent thought of her own. When we go somewhere on vacation, I suggest we go check out certain places I believe would be nice. If that place is not on Instagram, it gets deprioritized to the point where in most instances, we end up running out of time and not going there. I make good money, so it's actually possible if we wanted to, to go do most of what she sees on Instagram, but not all. So I take her to do most of the things. But that feeling of disappointment, sadness and anger towards me, that she gets, when I say that one last thing is too expensive for us - that breaks my heart every time. Until that point, she's in dreamland - living out every experience she sees on Instagram. And that first experience she sees, that I refuse to take her on - her entire dreamland comes crashing down, and I would be solely responsible for that. I am competing with celebrities most of the time, and they probably make a lot more money that I do. It's hard to keep "her" wants satisfied. Because it's not her wants at all. It's the everyone she sees on Instagram - the union of their wants.
staticvoidmaine 7y ago
Having just taken a brief look at your link, it seems your link does more to discredit NLP than justify it. How did you come across it, how did you vet it before subscribing to it, and how has your experience applying it been?

LASR 7y ago

My wife is very much addicted to Instagram. Every date, every vacation, pretty much anything we ever do for fun is dictacted by what someone already did and posted to Instagram. Sometimes, it feels like she has zero independent thought of her own. When we go somewhere on vacation, I suggest we go check out certain places I believe would be nice. If that place is not on Instagram, it gets deprioritized to the point where in most instances, we end up running out of time and not going there. I make good money, so it's actually possible if we wanted to, to go do most of what she sees on Instagram, but not all. So I take her to do most of the things. But that feeling of disappointment, sadness and anger towards me, that she gets, when I say that one last thing is too expensive for us - that breaks my heart every time. Until that point, she's in dreamland - living out every experience she sees on Instagram. And that first experience she sees, that I refuse to take her on - her entire dreamland comes crashing down, and I would be solely responsible for that. I am competing with celebrities most of the time, and they probably make a lot more money that I do. It's hard to keep "her" wants satisfied. Because it's not her wants at all. It's the everyone she sees on Instagram - the union of their wants.

staticvoidmaine 7y ago

Having just taken a brief look at your link, it seems your link does more to discredit NLP than justify it. How did you come across it, how did you vet it before subscribing to it, and how has your experience applying it been?