It's this worry that causes me to prefix non-urgent things with something like "Hey, question when you get a chance, XXX". What feels demanding to me is cowork

It's this worry that causes me to prefix non-urgent things with something like "Hey, question when you get a chance, XXX". What feels demanding to me is coworkers who will simply send a message containing my name, sometimes followed by a period. Opening slack to see just "John." (not my actual name) is somehow both more and less personal than "Hi". I believe it's mostly a language barrier thing, as it's only ever ESL speakers who do it, but it still feels like nails on a chalkboard for me.