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> Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind gett

> Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate. Being young and LGBTQIA+, I can assure you that I never discuss my dating life at work or with my relatives (none of whom know I'm gay, but thankfully, I don't live with them anymore). Until there are strict federal anti-discrimination protections for LGBTQIA+ folks, I'll never trust an employer to know that side of my life.

sterlind 7y ago
OkCupid's "hide my profile from straight people" feature is fantastic for exactly this reason. Pity the site's fallen out of favor, it's the one dating app I felt comfortable with.
mwilliaams 7y ago
Dave Chappelle says: Now we’re up to 27% of the alphabet.
- jedberg 7y ago
  Dave Chappelle is also an intolerant prick when it comes to gender and race, so it may not be so wise to quote him on that.
  - gandutraveler 7y ago
    Dave Chappelle is a comedian and if you get offended by what he says during stand-up then you are a intolerant prick
- some_furry 7y ago
  Do you have a problem with the diversity of queer identities? I personally think it's a good thing, because language can empower individuals with many words with which to express themselves, rather than just a handful of boolean values (Are you gay or straight? Are you male or female?). Being gay to me might not be quite the same thing as being gay to someone else. There's multiple facets at play here, and many are entire spectra. Comedians like Dave Chappelle aren't trying to speak the truth. They're either reinforcing cognitive biases to build rapport with their audience or subverting them to elicit a laugh. Usually one followed by the other. Personally, I find the idea that the whole breadth of depth of anyone's identity can be compressed in 3 or fewer bits of information to be, frankly, dehumanizing. Even if you're a cisgender, allosexual, heterosexual man.

sterlind 7y ago

OkCupid's "hide my profile from straight people" feature is fantastic for exactly this reason. Pity the site's fallen out of favor, it's the one dating app I felt comfortable with.

mwilliaams 7y ago

Dave Chappelle says: Now we’re up to 27% of the alphabet.

jedberg 7y ago
Dave Chappelle is also an intolerant prick when it comes to gender and race, so it may not be so wise to quote him on that.
- gandutraveler 7y ago
  Dave Chappelle is a comedian and if you get offended by what he says during stand-up then you are a intolerant prick
some_furry 7y ago
Do you have a problem with the diversity of queer identities? I personally think it's a good thing, because language can empower individuals with many words with which to express themselves, rather than just a handful of boolean values (Are you gay or straight? Are you male or female?). Being gay to me might not be quite the same thing as being gay to someone else. There's multiple facets at play here, and many are entire spectra. Comedians like Dave Chappelle aren't trying to speak the truth. They're either reinforcing cognitive biases to build rapport with their audience or subverting them to elicit a laugh. Usually one followed by the other. Personally, I find the idea that the whole breadth of depth of anyone's identity can be compressed in 3 or fewer bits of information to be, frankly, dehumanizing. Even if you're a cisgender, allosexual, heterosexual man.