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Date your friends! :D On a more serious note though, why not? If their mission is to help connect people and this helps connect people that otherwise had troub

Date your friends! :D On a more serious note though, why not? If their mission is to help connect people and this helps connect people that otherwise had trouble dating and this does so in a meaningful way then sounds good to me. Privacy is always a concern no matter what the app/site/technology.

saagarjha 7y ago
> Privacy is always a concern no matter what the app/site/technology. It’s not “privacy is a concern”, it’s “this thing is significantly worse for my privacy than this other thing”. Not caring about privacy because it’s “always a concern” falls to take into account that there are varying levels of privacy that services provide.
johnisgood 7y ago
The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends, unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.
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- RandomBacon 7y ago
  > It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook. "Just like your 2FA phone number won't be used for anything except 2FA." - Facebook /s
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- henrikschroder 7y ago
  > unless you choose to use Secret Crush Add all your friends to Secret Crush. Watch who matched you. "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!" Idiots. And this is why the shared identity is a terrible idea for dating sites. You want dating profiles to be throwaway, and you want it to be hard for your friends to find your dating persona for this reason! But of course Facebook doesn't understand the need to keep secrets from (some of) your friends.
  - gamblor956 7y ago
    You can only have 9 Secret Crushes at a time. Believe it or not, they actually have put some thought into their final product based on the beta tests conducted in smaller international markets.
    - henrikschroder 7y ago
      Ok, so then you rotate that list through your friends. They might make it tedious to go through all my friends, but if I'm determined enough, I can do it.
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      - hombre_fatal 7y ago
        Well, let me finish your hypothetical situation for you. You: "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me! Haha gotcha! :D" Them: "Oh, okay... [You fuckin' weirdo. -20 rapport]" I don't really see the epic exploit here.
      - gamblor956 7y ago
        No, because that would require you and your friends to be in each others crush list at the same time. Unless you and your friends only have 9 facebook friends each, you prove nothing with this bizarre hypothetical you've constructed.
        henrikschroder 7y ago
        People who seriously use this feature will put their secret crushes on the list, and then forget about it. I come along a few months later, and rotate all my friends through this list, and so I discover which of my friends have secret crushes on me, because I'm not using the feature like you're "supposed" to.
ocdtrekkie 7y ago
Yeah, like, as much as I detest Facebook, if I was looking for a partner... I'd consider using this. It'd be using my social graph of people I know to find people I don't know but who are probably similar or would fit well into my life? I feel like this is likely to be a lot more effective than the old dating app questionnaire. Definitely a bit nerve-wracking on who can see if you're using it, potentially, since you know, I'd never want people on Facebook to know I'm using a "dating app", but other than that, I actually really like the implementation here.
wheelerwj 7y ago
Because the only connecting they are doing is consumers to advertisers. We've already seen what social media connected to advertising does to election security, do you really think its a good idea to test it on your love life?
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saagarjha 7y ago

> Privacy is always a concern no matter what the app/site/technology. It’s not “privacy is a concern”, it’s “this thing is significantly worse for my privacy than this other thing”. Not caring about privacy because it’s “always a concern” falls to take into account that there are varying levels of privacy that services provide.

johnisgood 7y ago

The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends, unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.

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RandomBacon 7y ago
> It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook. "Just like your 2FA phone number won't be used for anything except 2FA." - Facebook /s
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henrikschroder 7y ago
> unless you choose to use Secret Crush Add all your friends to Secret Crush. Watch who matched you. "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!" Idiots. And this is why the shared identity is a terrible idea for dating sites. You want dating profiles to be throwaway, and you want it to be hard for your friends to find your dating persona for this reason! But of course Facebook doesn't understand the need to keep secrets from (some of) your friends.
- gamblor956 7y ago
  You can only have 9 Secret Crushes at a time. Believe it or not, they actually have put some thought into their final product based on the beta tests conducted in smaller international markets.
  - henrikschroder 7y ago
    Ok, so then you rotate that list through your friends. They might make it tedious to go through all my friends, but if I'm determined enough, I can do it.
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    - hombre_fatal 7y ago
      Well, let me finish your hypothetical situation for you. You: "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me! Haha gotcha! :D" Them: "Oh, okay... [You fuckin' weirdo. -20 rapport]" I don't really see the epic exploit here.
    - gamblor956 7y ago
      No, because that would require you and your friends to be in each others crush list at the same time. Unless you and your friends only have 9 facebook friends each, you prove nothing with this bizarre hypothetical you've constructed.
      - henrikschroder 7y ago
        People who seriously use this feature will put their secret crushes on the list, and then forget about it. I come along a few months later, and rotate all my friends through this list, and so I discover which of my friends have secret crushes on me, because I'm not using the feature like you're "supposed" to.

ocdtrekkie 7y ago

Yeah, like, as much as I detest Facebook, if I was looking for a partner... I'd consider using this. It'd be using my social graph of people I know to find people I don't know but who are probably similar or would fit well into my life? I feel like this is likely to be a lot more effective than the old dating app questionnaire. Definitely a bit nerve-wracking on who can see if you're using it, potentially, since you know, I'd never want people on Facebook to know I'm using a "dating app", but other than that, I actually really like the implementation here.

wheelerwj 7y ago

Because the only connecting they are doing is consumers to advertisers. We've already seen what social media connected to advertising does to election security, do you really think its a good idea to test it on your love life?

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