This is remarkably similar to someone I knew. She definitely decided to find her own way. After the time to develop some trust, she availed herself of my ear

This is remarkably similar to someone I knew. She definitely decided to find her own way. After the time to develop some trust, she availed herself of my ear and perhaps a bit of my perspective, but did not want to be told what to do. (She was also more than a bit of a user, emotionally and intellectually but not materially. But I'm not ready to conflate the experience and these qualities. Professionally, she was quite successful.)