I totally understand your need for guidance, but this might be better put on Reddit.com. There would be a lot more people answering your query, and topics like

I totally understand your need for guidance, but this might be better put on Reddit.com. There would be a lot more people answering your query, and topics like this are common and acceptable there, and I've always seen a lot of quality answers. If you get a lot of advice here, that's fine, but keep Reddit in mind as an alternative.